I’ve recently been asked why it has taken me this long to share openly about the spiritual abuse that Barry and I endured years ago. Simply said…we were still under the impression that we were to cover the leaders that abused us and misused their authority in our life. For us to speak up and tell the truth would also mean that we would implicate people we dearly loved and respected.
While we were under their leadership, we did bring up numerous concerns only to have them shrugged off or dismissed. We often felt misunderstood and frustrated as a result. We were taught to trust, obey and that we could freely ask questions or appeal to our leaders. However, whenever we tried to appeal or bring up concerns, we would leave each meeting repenting for not trusting, for not seeing the big picture…for being selfish.
This was so hard to handle and even harder to wrap our minds around. It caused a great amount of confusion and pain. We so badly wanted to be in God’s will and be faithful to the church and the pastors that we respected and loved. But even with the purest of intentions we ended up doing more harm than good. We enabled an abusive group of pastors…we allowed them to hurt us and many others.
So, I ask you…who’s covering whom and when it comes down to it…is anyone really looking out for you? Check out this article…it may change your life.